Have you ever wondered what the hollywood version of yourself would look like?
Do you ever just sit there scrolling through red carpet photos of all sorts of A-list events in America, and just think “God Damn, every one of these women are stunning” and then you’re suddenly inspired to search a youtube makeup tutorial of Blake Lively’s Golden Globes makeup? Literally, red carpet photos are my go-to when I’m getting my makeup done and need a reference photo, or when I’m going to the hairdressers to get a new cut and some highlights.
Whether we’d like to admit it or not, the women that stand on each red carpet illustrate the modern standards of beauty for females today.
That sucks, because we talk about #GirlLove #BodyLove #BodyConfidence, and we teach other girls to love themselves and how they are, yet we’re bombarded with photos of gorgeous actresses and women wearing a draping dazzling dress outline every part of their body, and we can only sub consciously think to ourselves “I wish I was like that”.
I’ve been raised to not conform with society, and follow the latest trends. I’ve been taught to not care about how other woman look and to only focus on appreciating and loving my body.
Now don’t get me wrong, while some of these celebrities have plastic surgery done, a lot are under strict diets and work schedules which I give complete credit to. I have watched enough BuzzFeed Boldly videos to know what these celebrities go through to achieve the bodies they have, leading up to big events such as the Red Carpet, a big movie role, or a photoshoot.
I think what bugs me and most other girls I assume, is that it puts us down when we try hard to achieve the bodies they have. Like I said, as much as we hate to admit it, 9 times out of 10 we look at gorgeous female celebrities for ‘fitspo’ or just about any other beauty inspiration that we need.
I’m one of those girls that looked at Instagram models and Bikini models and put the image in my head as a goal to work towards; there’s nothing wrong with that. But what is wrong, is the frustration we feel when we don’t achieve the super high expectations we have of ourselves. That’s when you fall into the trap into obsession and mood changes. I’m one of them.
It took me a while to understand, and actually I’m still trying to understand, that I and we, are not like bikini models, or high profile celebrities. Our job does not revolve around needing to maintain a certain body type. As middle class citizens, some of us go to school, go to uni, work part time, work full-time, have kids, so we need to accept that we probably won’t achieve the exact same body of our favourite model and that’s fine!
After doing my own research, I kind of question my ideal body image. Julie who was a bikini model and a famous instagrammer, was almost sitting at single digits for body fat percentage. She was constantly thinking of her next meal, she was fatigued because she always experienced calorie deficit.
“Ladies, do NOT…I repeat, do NOT look at all these bikini competition photos or magazine covers these next couple months and compare your body to theirs. 99.9% of them are either showing a VERY VERY VERY extreme highlight reel OR photoshopped”– Julie said in her Instagram post.
What many bikini models eventually shared with their followers was that keeping the bikini body shape was NOT do-able, because it simply was not healthy.
There’s absolutley no problem with working out everyday and maintaining a healthy diet, but do it for yourselves girls! Don’t do it because you want to be ‘instagram worthy’ (whatever that means), and don’t deprive yourself of enjoying life, if that means going to a food truck festival and eating that nutella donut!
If I learnt anything in the last year, it’s to enjoy working out, and enjoy feeling good.
Sure I dream about having the body Kayla Itsines and strutting the red carpet like Blake Lively.
Sure I would love to wake up looking like Beyonce when she sings “I woke up like this”.
But, I think the beloved movie Frozen is a perfect visual representation of how I wake up each morning, and I have no problem with that!
The truth is, I’m still trying hard to teach myself the concept of not being so hard on myself and my body.
Someone asked me what was one of my personal goals for this year, and I told them that I really wanted to appreciate my body and myself.
I’m not one to care about how I look most days, I will happily walk out of the house with trackies and my uggs, but I think having self-confidence, and learning to love yourself is different.
I guess this is more of a piece written to myself…the point is, enjoy whatever fitness journey you’re going through, be happy of every little goal you reach, be motivated for each one that you fail! At the end of the day your failures aren’t permanent like a tattoo, you get back up and you have a better reason to achieve them.
If you’re always going to put yourself down for not looking like your ultimate model inspo then you’re never going to appreciate or love what you have even when you do reach those goals.
Don’t stress yourselves out girls, life isn’t all about a number on a scale, keep doing you, live a healthy and happy lifestyle, because the last thing you want is your body reaching complete exhaustion.
Keep Smiling 🙂